The simple shift to get them to hear you (and obey!)
Using Preferred Items and Activities for Demands
Creating positive associations with your child’s name and with responding to requests is a powerful ABA strategy that strengthens connection while encouraging compliance. When you consistently pair your child’s name with access to preferred experiences, you build a foundation of positive expectation rather than demand-based interaction.
The key principle here is simple but profound: by calling your child’s name primarily when offering something desirable rather than making demands, you transform their name from a signal for compliance into an announcement of something positive. This approach leverages natural motivation rather than external pressure.
Consider implementing this strategy by calling your child’s name before offering hugs, treats, toys, or initiating favorite games. For example, “Michael, would you like a cookie?” or “Sarah, it’s time for our special dance party!” Over time, this creates a reflexive positive response to hearing their name.
This technique is particularly effective because it harnesses the power of naturally occurring reinforcement. Rather than creating artificial reward systems, you’re utilizing things your child already enjoys as opportunities to strengthen connection and communication.
Identify Truly Preferred Items
Pay close attention to what genuinely motivates your child, not what you think should motivate them. Preferences can change over time, so regularly reassess what your child finds rewarding.
Use an Enthusiastic Tone
When calling your child’s name before offering something enjoyable, use an upbeat, warm tone that signals something positive is coming.
Balance Demands and Offers
Aim for significantly more positive name associations than demand-based ones, creating an overall positive experience with responding to their name.
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